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Observe without Judging

In ‘Mutant messages from Forever’, by Marlo Morgan, I have been reading about the traditions of the Australian Aboriginal people, who suffered great hardships, being driven from their land, their newborn children being stolen from them, and many even being killed.

One beautiful message is to observe, not judge. This is nothing new, since every culture, every tradition teaches this in some form or the other. But each time we hear it, the message sounds fresh, perhaps because it is such a crucial one for our healing, for our spiritual journey, that it cannot be said often enough.

 Judgement involves deciding right or wrong or degrees thereof. Where there is judgement, there needs to be forgiveness as well. When you judge, you must also experience and learn forgiveness. For every moment you spend judging, you will ultimately have to spend an exact same amount of time in forgiveness, at some time or the other.

Observation, on the other hand, does not require the step of forgiveness. According to Benala, the Aboriginal woman in the story,  “You acknowledge all people as ‘Forever’ souls, acknowledge all people as being on their journey through the school of human experience, and acknowledge all souls possessing the gift of free will and freedom of choice given by the Creator. In other words, people different from you are not wrong. They are just making different spiritual choices.”

“…Each of us must decide what is right for us to help support a positive journey. In turn, we are responsible for serving others who cross our path.”

If another person’s ways don’t resonate with ours, we should just bless their way of thinking and walk away. We don’t need to judge it  in any way. We merely observe what is taking place, and decide  that we don’t wish to take part in it.

Personally, I would love to be this way. I try often to stop myself from judging. And I do succeed – when the stakes for me are not too high, when I’m not too emotionally involved. It is when things get close that it becomes difficult!

The truth is that the Aboriginal people suffered great personal tragedies, and they still were able to continue thinking as they always did. This takes a lot of faith, and more importantly, the Grace that comes as a result of such undying faith. I guess that if we can practise consciously telling ourselves, and asking for that Grace, we can be sure that it will soon be ours, and what we practise will soon become a habit.

I would try this, if only for the selfish reason that I don’t want to need any more forgiveness in my life! For that would mean the need for healing. I would rather heal all the little ailments that I have and get completely healthy – and stay that way!


April 18, 2011 Posted by | Personal Journey, Psychology, Self Improvement, Spirituality and Religion | Leave a comment


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